Sleep experts, food experts, behavioural experts, baby experts, experts about experts… Ugh my head could just explode reading all the different articles about how you should be raising and handling all the stages your baby goes through.
It’s gotten to the point for me that I had to stop reading these articles. Everything you read contradicts the last one, which to me makes everything more confusing. How is it that all these experts can tell you what you are or are not doing “right”with your baby, when in all actuality every baby is so different?
Don’t get me wrong some suggestions or advice of things to try with certain things you are struggling with are great. But just because it worked for one baby doesn’t mean that it will for another. I find it extremely frustrating not to mention insulting to hear someone say I’m doing something “wrong” just because they didn’t do that with their child or because a book told them that isn’t the proper way. I am well aware I don’t have all the answers, but when it comes to parenting I don’t think anyone does…
Here’s how I see it, if its working for you, and your baby is healthy & happy do it!
When I was a baby my Mom didn’t have access to google or all these “expert” books/articles and my sisters and I turned out just fine! Those natural Mother instincts are just that, they come natural. Not saying that having help isn’t something we shouldn’t have because it absolutely is. But just because a book or something you googled told you it wasn’t the “right way” doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way for you and your baby! I’m learning to listen to & trust these instincts a lot more now. Maybe these instincts become stronger the more confidant and comfortable you become as a Mom? After all it is a huge learning curve, and there is nothing wrong with asking for help or advice. But that doesn’t mean you have to take it or think that your way isn’t the “right way”. You know your baby better than anyone else, so when it comes down to it trust those instincts.